Flair Magazine As the saying goes “Real Queens Fix Each Other’s Crowns” envy is something you definitely want to avoid as much as you would cooties. It looks unattractive on anyone and makes you wonder why it hasn’t become extinct yet. If you’re reading this article, you’re probably wondering why you have it yourself. We’re here to help you get to the root of the problem and dispense this bad habit once and for all.
Enough with the cyber stalking!
There’s only a short degree to which stalking can be considered healthy – well, not healthy, but at least relatively normal. Beyond that limit, which we think goes up to 5 minutes tops, you know you have a problem. Think of it like a drinking problem. If you don’t trust yourself, make yourself accountable to a friend who will slap your phone from your hand when necessary.
Become more inspired, less bitter
The transition from one perspective to the other is as simple as switching lens on a camera. You just do it. Instead of reacting with “I can’t believe this happened to her but hasn’t happened to me yet”, think something along the lines of “Wow! Good for her. Maybe I’ll have that someday.” Even if you don’t say it out loud, you need to at least think it. The habit of envy is broken first in your mindset.
Ask yourself why
Every time you look at someone with envy, you think less of yourself because you essentially make yourself inferior to them in your own head. Ask yourself why that’s okay with you. Shame comes in different facets and we are no fans of any kind of shame. To fight it, start by listening to William Arthur Ward’s wise words: “Happiness is an inside job.”
Ditch your insecure squad
If you’re always surrounded by people who are looking for something around them to define them, you will probably follow suit. You will find yourself always wanting to be like someone you’re not and the cycle of discontentment will simply recommence. Insecurity is contagious like that, but thankfully, so is confidence! Stick to the people who are actually happy with who they are. Those are the ones who have real fun at the end of the day.
By Sarah Guirguis
